Sometimes the best way to tell if you’ve found a professional who may be able to help is by what he or she does not do. The following are some warning signs. We suggest that you look elsewhere for your care if your doctor does any of the following things:
• He refuses or is unwilling to have your partner involved in diagnosis and treatment.
• He ignores your sexual problem or tries to change the subject every time you bring it up.
• He tells you to adjust to life without sex, or tells you that sex isn’t important.
• He fails to take a complete medical history specifically aimed at diagnosing impotence.
• He makes any automatic, unfounded assumptions about the cause of your problem. If your doctor tells you without giving you a thorough evaluation that your erection problems are caused by psychological difficulties or that you have a problem just because you’ve been working too hard, run, don’t walk, out of that office. Generally speaking, no one can assume the cause of your problem without a thorough evaluation specifically focused on your potency problem. Don’t let a well meaning but ignorant professional dissuade you from seeking all the help you need.
• He can’t tell you the success rates and the dangers of various treatments.
• He is quick to tell you, “If this treatment doesn’t work, nothing will!” If you hear this, bolt for the door! No knowledgeable professional will put you under such wholly uncalled-for stress. There are almost always alternative treatments that will help. If you decide on a particular course of action, find out about alternatives if your first attempt at a solution (preferably the least expensive and least complicated treatment) doesn’t work.